(This blog is a repost from September 2015)
One of the most common misconceptions about personality styles is the difference between being shy and being an introvert. It’s not really the same thing. Shyness is often rooted in fear and anxiety while introversion is a type of personality style that has certain characteristics, most notably the fact that introverts recharge their energy with time alone while extroverts gain energy from time spent with other people. Although shy children typically are also introverts, not all introverts are shy.
Here are some of the strengths that introverts can celebrate:
Introverts are highly observant— Introverts typically notice and remember details about people and their surroundings. They take time to notice and process what is happening around them.
Introverts are creative– Perhaps due to their powers of observation, introverts typically take the information that they observe and create wonderful new ideas. They can think outside of the box and provide a unique perspective on life. For this reason, they often make great writers and artists.
Introverts are great listeners– Introverts listen to understand, process and respond with thought and empathy. For this reason, they often make great teachers and counselors because they really tune in to others.
Introverts are introspective– Typically introverts are not quick to respond but need time to process information. They spend a lot of time thinking through and analyzing information about themselves and others.
Introverts are rarely bored– Because introverts are deep thinkers they are constantly planning and working out their dreams and goals in their head. This can keep them entertained and busy!
Introverts are loyal friends– Because introverts are thoughtful observers who value their time alone, they typically choose a select few friends. With their inner circle, they are supportive and loyal through thick and thin.
Parenting the Introvert
In the past, many parents felt a need to “help” children who were introverts overcome what were seen as deficits. Today, thanks to much research and eye opening books like Susan Cain’s book, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, introverts are celebrated for their unique strengths and abilities. Cain concludes her book with a section on advice to parents.
Here are some of her main points:
- Take the time to understand the personality style of your introverted child
- Don’t try to change them into someone more extroverted by pushing them into sports, activities, play dates or anything that they are not interested in doing
- Recognize that the areas where they have strengths are sometimes solitary pursuits. Encourage and celebrate these talents.
- Learn about and share with them the lives of some of the famous introverts. Rosa Parks, Albert Einstein and Eleanor Roosevelt are a few.
- Recognize and teach children that introverts can be leaders, performers, really anything that they have a passion for, they just go at it from a different direction.
- Celebrate with your child the characteristics they have that make them uniquely special.
What about you? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? How do you celebrate your unique personality style? I’d love to hear in the comments section..
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