When it comes to personalities, do you sometimes wish that you could swap your personality for another?
Maybe if you are a parent, you wish you could swap your child’s personality for another, at least long enough to get them to finish their homework or do their chores!
If you are reserved, do you wish that you could be more outgoing?
If you are task oriented, do you sometimes wish that you could be more sensitive to people and their feelings? We all have aspects of our personality that we sometimes wish we could change.
Understanding Personality Styles Means Accepting Different Personality Styles
One of the goals of understanding the four basic personality styles is to move from tolerating a personality style in ourselves or others to accepting and ultimately celebrating that personality style. Every style has it’s own unique blend of strengths and weaknesses.
In ourselves as well as in our children, we must first come to accept and celebrate those strengths rather than focusing on changing or eliminating those undesirable aspects. No one personality is better than another. Each one can use it’s strengths to grow and develop. In the same way, each one can push them to the point of being a weakness.
Four Personalty Styles
There are four basic personality styles and here’s a short description of the characteristics of each one:
D: dominant, determined, doer, demanding
I: inspiring, influencing, interactive
S: stable, supportive, sweet, shy
C: cautious, competent, calculating, concerned
While we are all uniquely wired and more comfortable operating out of our own personality type, it is certainly possible to “visit” some of the other personality traits. In order to do this, we have to recognize the area of need and consciously develop those traits.
Within the four personality types, there is the possibility of a total of forty personality blends! It is important to note that very few people have only one personality type. In fact, about 80% of the population have two components that are high. The trick is to identify what characteristics are called for based on the situation.
Each of us needs to spend most of our time working in our strengths. At the same time, we need to recognize when we should raise our less dominant characteristics based on the needs of the situation.
What does this mean for you and your child? What is the best way to encourage your child’s strengths while at the same time helping them deal with situations that challenge them?
- Firstly, it is important that when your child is old enough to understand their personality type that you explain to them what you see as their strengths. Point out to them when you see them using those qualities in a positive way.
- It is also important that they recognize situations where they are challenged so they can enhance those qualities when called for.
- Finally, celebrate the unique qualities that make up your child. The differences we all have is what makes our families special and unique.
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