So your child isn’t a high energy, a steady or a strong-willed child. What is the fourth and last personality style? Maybe your child is a C personality style which is described as cautious, careful, conscientious, correct, and consistent, just to name a few descriptive words. They tend to be extremely gifted and make up about 20-25% of the population. They like to be right, follow the rules and can be very loyal to traditions. Not as outgoing as the determined or D type they are however similar in that they are task focused and like to stick with something until it is completed.
Sometimes C wired children have a perfectionistic, idealistic approach. They tend to see the world as black and white and are often impatient with other’s perceptions that are different from their own. They can be very hard on themselves and others when they don’t measure up to their high standards. C personalities like to be right and follow the rules. Quality and details are important to them, so they cannot be rushed or pushed. They need time to make decisions since they like to gather the facts and do things correctly. Sometimes this perfectionistic bent can lead to analysis paralysis, where they cannot make decisions or more forward because they can always gather more facts to analyze before making the perfect decision.
This is a child who benefits from sincere praise and appreciation of a job well done. Correction should be gentle. An important role of the parent of a C child is to help them see the big picture and not get too caught up in the details. Help them discover quality answers to their many questions and appreciate their curiosity about the world and how it works. Encourage them to interact with others and learn to empathize with feelings. Celebrate the C child’s naturally inquisitive, inventive nature, and their desire to do things right and with high value. Oh, and get ready for those challenging “where do babies come from…” questions. Smile.